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Take Control

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So… it’s the second day of the new year.  This is usually the time for people to make their resolutions and decide what kind of goals they are going to achieve in 2o17.  Yesterday I talked about my goals for the year, in regards to TONS of different things…health, fitness, love, life, friendship, extracurricular activities, travel, etc.  Will I achieve them all?  Probably not, but I’m sure as hell gonna try my best to do so!  But you know what I WON’T do?  Make excuses.  I AM THE ONE THAT HAS CONTROL.  Will other things affect my goals?  You bet your ass.  But will I ALLOW them to take control and give up on my goals?  NO FREAKING WAY.  Like today, I was running a fever, had a runny nose, felt like crap, it was raining and cold…but I got out there and ran 3.1 miles anyways (well, I walked more than ran I think…but at least I made the effort!).

For some of you, you have to have TOUGH LOVE with yourself.  You have to dig deep and really decide what it is you want and what you’ll do to achieve that.  It might take giving something up…it might take adding something to the mix…or maybe just adjusting your focus.  But whatever you do…it’s gotta be UP TO YOU. Take control.

Last week I shared an amazing article on Facebook entitled “Hate to Break it to You But You Are the Reason Your Life Sucks So Much.”  Harsh?  Yes.  But totally TRUE. It was so true that I found myself nodding my head so hard and giving myself a headache at all the TRUTH ha.  You can click that title to head to the article itself, but these are three quotes that stood out to me the most and what I took away from it. I’ll vary my focus from just nutrition/fitness so that you can get a variety of situations to use these mindsets.

–“The only thing holding you back from achieving greatness is in fact YOU.”
If you want to lose 25 pounds this year and it’s a logical goal, well let’s freaking do it.  I can tell you that of the people that I’ve coached, I’ve never had ONE person NOT see results if they actually buckled down and followed a workout and nutrition program for its recommended plan and amount of time.  When someone tells me something didn’t work for them, the first question I ask them is, “Well did you follow it to a T?”  If their answer is no, I tell them to go back and try again.  Can you tweak things and still see results?  Sure.  But give it the recommended time for your first round and SEE RESULTS, then worry about changing it up.  Obviously things you’ve tried in the past haven’t worked, so why not try something that has proven results? Eh?

–“You will never be happy if you’re constantly looking at the negatives.”

If you want to have a better relationship with your friend, partner, co-worker, and/or family member…make it happen!  Instead of thinking about all of the negative things about your relationship, focus on the positives and figure out how to make those things COMPOUND.  Don’t just sit down and decide what makes each other unhappy and work on limiting those things from happening…look at what makes you happy and do MORE of it.  If you’re constantly focusing on the negatives and figuring out everything that has gone wrong, it’s hard to see all the good things that are there.  But you know what?  For some of you it might also be a wake-up call that the relationship you’re working so hard to save (even if you’ve been BFFs for 10 years), may be negative in itself and TOXIC.  Surround yourself with people with similar goals and aspirations and you’ll be better for it.  Even if you don’t take that negative relationship away…try to add more positive ones and you’ll see a difference.

–“Don’t stand in the way of your own life, don’t give up when things get hard because quitting will never get you anywhere. Instead work harder and work smarter.”

Let’s focus on careers for this one. So many people are in jobs that they don’t necessarily enjoy, but they make it work because it’s money to support them and their families.  Sometimes you’re stuck for whatever reason.  Or maybe you’re happy working your (albeit slightly mediocre) job because you have less responsibility and you’re okay with that.  Or you may be happy in your job and you already follow the mentality listed above.  Whatever scenario you can relate to, you gotta make it work.  If it’s something worthwhile, supports you and your endeavors and you CAN make it work, do it.  Find ways to make it better and focus on the positives in this one, too.

I can relate greatly to this one…before this year, I was working in a school where I felt unsupported financially and administratively, and to make matters worse I was driving 90 minutes ONE WAY to get there.  I even received a job at another, much closer, location after one year, but wasn’t granted release from my contract to leave.  So did I go back the second year and pout and gripe and bitch and moan about it the entire year?  Well, maybe a few gripes to the great friends I made there…ha…but NO!  I made the best of it.  I relished in the fabulous friendships I made with the teachers and staff.  I made the most of every time I got to work with an individual or group of students. We made the best of a bad situation, and made sure that none of the kids (and most of the teachers) we were helping knew the lack of resources  we actually had.  We worked harder AND smarter.  We were resourceful.  And I survived and am now much closer, much more supported, and much happier in my present situation.  Do I miss the challenges that I faced at my previous position?  Not a chance, but I do miss the great relationships I made while I was there.  But I never gave up and I learned a lot from the situation for sure.

So yeah…to sum it up.  TAKE CONTROL of your life.  Make your own decisions and figure out what you need to do to get to where you want to be.  Even if someone/something else IS to blame, don’t place the blame on them/it.  Take ownership and figure out what you can do to OVERCOME.  Stop overthinking and talking the talk…DO IT and WALK THE WALK.  Prove the doubters wrong.  Better yet, prove YOURSELF wrong.  Hell, you’ve doubted yourself long enough, haven’t you?!  And if you suck at believing in yourself, eventually you’ll stop failing at it if you keep trying.  Let’s FAIL FORWARD.

We had a team call tonight and had to reflect on what our purpose in life was…along with what to enjoy and what to do in this purposeful life. I’ve shared mine below and I encourage you to think about what would fill in YOUR blanks.  Take control…own it.

Cat’s purpose:
The purpose of my life is to make the best of every situation, to enjoy life’s little moments, and to do everything I can to be happy and healthy and fulfilled.

What’s yours??
The purpose of my life is ______________, to enjoy _______________, and to do _______.

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Common Misconceptions

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One of my first blog posts was called “The Ugly Truth” and though it was filled with lots of useful information, I felt it necessary to revisit some of those ideas, and also some common misconceptions that many have regarding health, fitness, weight loss, Beachbody, and Shakeology.

Misconception #1: You have to eat less to lose weight.
When I was in college, I started an at-home workout program (from Beachbody, ironically haha) but didn’t follow the suggested food plan.  I ate 1200 calories, didn’t eat back any of the calories I burned, and a majority of those calories were from convenience foods lacking in nutritional benefits.  Did I lose weight?  Of course!  Did it stay off?  Not on your life!  I gained every pound back, and even more, the minute I ate more than usual or skipped a work out.  When I started this journey over in February, I was nearly 215 pounds and the program I was following had me eating 2000 calories.  Yes, 2000 and it was a TON of food.  And I still lost weight and inches.  It’s all in WHAT you eat, not necessarily the amount.

Misconception #2: Eating healthy is too expensive.
With a lot of what is in the media regarding food, diet, and nutrition lately, a lot of people think that eating healthy means eating all fresh foods, organic, vegan, vegetarian, gluten-free, etc.  and those options aren’t always as cost-efficient or as convenient as other things we are used to getting.  Each person has their own dietary needs and some follow certain guidelines because they need to rather than want to, for various reasons.  While eating some of these ways can be extremely beneficial, for others it is just not necessary.  My husband and I spend $75-100 a week (total, not each, and amyn times less) on groceries for the two of us and that includes lean meats, fruits and vegetables, healthy fats, whole grains, dairy, and yes, that even includes Shakeology for BOTH of us.  Think about how much you spend each week on fast food, coffee drinks, going out to dinner, and/or other convenience foods.  Is it more than $3.50 a day or $25 a week?  I pay less than that and every time I drink Shakeology I know I’m getting essential vitamins, minerals, and nutrients that come from whole foods, that curbs my cravings, helps my hair and nails grow, keeps me full until my next meal, and helps me to stay healthy (sickness is limited to seasonal allergies!).  Most convenient foods are full of additives and are high in sugar and sodium that is very harmful, especially for those with any health issues or those prone to them.

Misconception #3: What hasn’t/has worked for someone else, won’t/will work for me
Remember that everyone is different.  There is no “one size fits all” in regards to nutrition and fitness.  I wish it were that easy! There are a lot of different options out there and if you’ve tried something and it hasn’t worked, don’t give up.  Try something else!  I did WW twice and couldn’t handle all of the freedom it gave me.  I could eat all fast food and drink empty calories and still stay in my points, and I knew that wasn’t the best thing for me.  But it has worked for many of my friends and I’m super proud of their success!  I tried four or five different diet pills, but didn’t like how they made me feel.  I was jittery, plus nothing suppressed my appetite to keep me from making poor food choices anyways.  I’ve tried low-carb, no-carb, high protein, low calorie, super restrictive, etc. etc. etc. and nothing worked for me until I realized that for me it was all about portion control and balance.

Misconception #4: As long as you work out, you can eat whatever you want.
As much as we all would love to believe this statement, it just isn’t true.  For those of you trying to lose weight, food choices (see how I didn’t call it a diet?) are 80% of the battle.  If you just make changes in what you eat, you’ll see the pounds start to come off even if you aren’t hitting up the gym, using an at-home workout, walking, running, or whatever.  If you’re trying to stay within a certain amount of calories, you can always eat back at least a portion of what you burn with a workout, but your body needs FUEL to make the changes you’re hoping to see.  Food choices should work together rather than against each other to help your body recover, build muscle, and burn fat.

Misconception #5: You can never eat fast food, desserts, or chocolate, or drink beer or wine ever again if you expect to be healthy and lose weight.
If these are items you couldn’t dream of letting go, you’re in luck…you don’t have to say goodbye!  I’m sure you’ve heard it before…”All in Moderation.”  You can indulge from time to time, but if your daily menu consists of these items more than anything else, it might be time for an intervention.  Many of these items are lacking in nutritional value, and have no real benefit for your body except for comfort and, for some, stability.  There are plenty of choices eating out that are healthier than a super-sized fast-food sandwich, fries, and milkshake, with a pie on the side.  There are a lot of delicious desserts and chocolate options that are satisfying.  Plus an occasional alcoholic beverage or two (even three) won’t hurt too much, but limiting that consumption to one day rather than multiple days during the week will leave your body feeling better.

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That time of year…

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The holidays are here and if you’re anything like me (and millions of others), you’re confronted with temptations daily.  It is also the time of year that most people start thinking about what they have accomplished in the past 11 months and begin making resolutions for the next year.   And though I tend to focus on health, fitness, and weight loss a majority of the time, we obviously focus on a lot of different aspects when it comes to accomplishments and resolutions.  But not being happy with the skin you’re in can bring a lot of stress, negative feelings, and poor decisions that can make it even harder to reach your goals and achieve your accomplishments, whether they are health related or not!

There are a lot of people that have approached me for support lately, and I am more than happy to help!  It’s why I got into coaching in the first place – because I saw success and had a lot to share with others.   But a lot of times I’m reminded that everyone is on their own journey and approaches things differently.  Each person has different things on his/her plate – stress, time management, planning, activity, family, etc.  There are a few quotes I feel are very important to remember at this time of year and every other day, as well:

1. “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.”
I love to share my results and the success stories of others, but many of us have been on this journey for awhile.  I have been working on my 47+ pound and 32+ inch loss since February 24th.  Others have been working longer, others less…and we all have different goals and are reaching different milestones.  When I started I wanted to lose 10 pounds.  When I got to that point, I made that goal 25, then 30, then 40, now 50.  I realized that I had the potential to do something more, but I didn’t want to set myself up for failure, since I knew that it was up to ME and no one else to get me where I wanted to be.  I saw the success of others and used it as inspiration and motivation to start my own journey to success.  I shared my frustrations, asked questions, tried new things, and let go of old practices.  It was only through carving my own path that I was able to learn anything, not by comparing myself to someone else.   And it might not be weight loss you’re trying to achieve.  You may be struggling with anorexia and want to know proper nutrition to get healthier, or you may already be thin but want to add muscle to your physique.  Set your goals and know what it takes to achieve them.  And understanding that there are no quick fixes (that last in the longterm) is essential.  For example, if you think of it as a diet, that puts an expiration date on your timeline.  Or if doing cardio makes you sick to your stomach, try yoga!  Make it a lifestyle change and strive to do better than yesterday, every day.

This was just shared with me today, by some fellow coaches, and I LOVE it!
2. “Your WHY needs to be stronger than your addictions.”

While we don’t want to call them addictions, there are a lot of things done daily that can be considered as such.  Trips to Starbucks or Tim Horton’s, Dunkin Donuts or Krispy Kreme, fast food chains, and even sit-down convenience restaurants.  For me it was sugary breakfast cereal and convenience foods for lunches like cinnamon applesauce, microwaveable diet meals, and snack bars.  Be stronger than those addictions (WANTS) and focus on your NEEDS.  And know what you need to do to reach your goals by focusing on a WHY.  WHY are you trying to (lose weight, get healthy, get fit)?  What propels you?  What motivates you?  What is going to help make this stick THIS TIME?  While I’m working to lose my excess weight before I get pregnant with my first child, you may be working toward a different goal.  Of the people I’m supporting right now, one wants to lose the baby weight from her last child, one is working on feeling sexier in a new dress for her vow renewal next year, and one is even working on losing enough weight to qualify for weight reduction surgery.  Figure out your WHY and be STRONGER than your addictions…AND your excuses.

And this brings us to this…
3.  “The only thing standing in the way of your success is your behavior.”
We can blame genetics, lifestyle, budget, opportunity, age, gender, race, or experience.  Or you can remember that YOU are the only thing that stands in your way.  The rest are just excuses.  Yup, I said it.   And for every excuse you give me, I can come right back with a success story of someone who made it happen.  YOU can make it happen, if you are willing to put in the effort.  If you’re not, that’s fine!  Like I said, I understand we all handle things differently, and must do things on our own time and in our own way.  But just know that there are options if you are willing, and it doesn’t have to include oodles of money, hours a day, duct-taping your mouth, or ritual sacrifice.

If you’re ready, I will be there every step of the way as your coach.  I’m here to support you, not get your sale.  Encouraging you helps to motivate me as well, as I’m still on that journey myself!  If you need daily check-ins, I can do that!  If you want me to help you plan out meals and accompany you to the grocery store, so be it (but I will definitely expect travel expenses :-P).  And now that I’m done with my second Masters, I want to dedicate some time into getting certified in nutrition and I’m really excited to keep learning and keep sharing.  Like I said, I know everyone is on their own journey so my coaching is not “one size fits all” either.  I can give you tough love, I can sit back and let you do your thing, or I can do a little of both.  But I will support you, answer your questions, and help whatever way I can and do whatever it is you need until you get where you want to be.  Guaranteed.  And though I am smart enough to know that it isn’t for everyone, I will always “promote” Beachbody products because there are a ton of people that have seen success using their products, myself included.  And you know the age-old saying…”don’t knock it ‘til you’ve tried it!”  Don’t draw conclusions until you’ve put in the effort!  And remember, there’s always a 30 day money back guarantee on any of our products, including a “bottom of the bag” guarantee for Shakeology.

Peace, love, and apples with peanut butter,
Cat.

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